I used to work as swing shift manager at a an Italian restaurant in a hotel in the Washington D.C. area. Over time I discovered one thing which was this: Hotel room plus food plus alcohol plus no accountability easily leads to sin and adultery. I won’t go into any details but I saw a whole lot of immoral things during my time of employment there. One story in particular was a nice couple who came into our restaurant every couple of days and held hands and had dinner in a quiet corner. I complemented them on being a nice couple and they smiled. I said the same to one of the other managers who told me the couple I eluded to were indeed married-TO OTHER PEOPLE. Both were committing adultery.
In today’s world, there are more excuses that people use to justify divorce than not. One of them is loneliness. While loneliness is an issue, it’s not grounds for divorce. There is loneliness in business travel or staying home while your spouse is in travel. And there is loneliness in military service for sure. So what does God’s word say about this? In 1 Samuel, David answers our question-as follows.
1 Samuel 21:4-6 Says: “4 And the priest answered David, “I have no common bread on hand, but there is holy bread—if the young men have kept themselves from women.” 5 And David answered the priest, “Truly women have been kept from us as always when I go on an expedition. The vessels of the young men are holy even when it is an ordinary journey. How much more today will their vessels be holy?” 6 So the priest gave him the holy bread, for...”
WHO WERE THESE MEN WITH DAVID? Going back to verse 2, David had attracted a considerable following of those who were oppressed, lonly and discontented with Saul’s rule. “EVERYONE WHO WAS IN DEBT” apparently refers to those who were in danger of being sold into slavery by their creditors (2 Kings 4:1). In a nutshell, they were a group of four hundred, soon to be 600 group of drifters and debtors, trouble-makers and those who were lonly and troubled. David later expressed his disappointment when he realized that none of the men were there to support him but to escape their negative situation. The point is that immoral compromise and infidelity can happen between the oppressed and disconted as it can the affluent and well accomplished. It's a human sin issue, not an issue of class.
As for you and I today, travel is more accessible and in many cases mandatory in our job. We should always remember that the key to travel is accountability. Traveling alone to hidden and quiet or foreign places should not be without some form of accountability. Working in our office with co-workers can be just as dangerous in a work space void of accountability and Christian moral ethics. All that being said, the simple rule here is for us not get ourselves into compromising positions to begin with. When we travel, we should travel or go on business meetings or dinners with others of the same sex with the same moral values as our own. In that way, like David and his hodge podge of men, we too can stand before our Lord and loved ones and say, “…Truly women (or men if a woman) have been kept from us as always when I go on an expedition. The vessels of the young men are holy even when it is an ordinary journey”. For us today, we can look our spouse, children, co-workers, fellow Christians and even the unsaved and give witness to Jesus Christ in that we have kept pure in mind, body and spirit while away on travel or at work. The moral of the story simply means this. Keeping out of compromising situations and having accountability. If you are wondering why I wrote about this-I am in 1 Samuel and this is what the Lord brought to light. I pray you all have a blessed day-Steven